Monday 8 May 2023

The Bishops Wanting To Bless Sexual Activity Outside Marriage, Problematic For This Ordinary Anglican

I sent this essay full of reasons as to why it's a bad idea to bless sex outside traditional marriage to all thirty six bishops who voted for this radical departure from orthodoxy. Not one of them has sent a reply engaging with any of the reasons presented here. 

Archbishop Justin Welby and his colleagues have got an army of unbelieving parliamentarians on their back insisting the Church of England recognises sexual relationships outside traditional marriage, the union of one man and one woman; in their own ranks there are loud voices demanding the same, but across the UK and the world there is a traditionalist sea of millions who will separate from the mother church if lines are crossed. It’s impossible not to feel sympathy for Archbishop Welby and his fellow bishops.

 And all of us, whatever our leanings, have struggled with the church’s historic teaching that sexual intimacy is only for a man and a woman within the covenant of marriage. That is a vast subject and the clergy who seek to give pastoral care need much wisdom. This though is not the focus of this essay.

 Here the focus is the statement from the bishops trying to deal with the conundrum they find themselves in. The have opted for a compromise, with Archbishop Welby himself epitomising this. He supports the idea of blessing sexual activity outside traditional marriage, but he himself will not give those blessings.

 Sometimes compromise is necessary. But not always, especially if that compromise lacks acumen, sensitivity, clarity, fidelity, and, seemingly, respect for Anglicans of a different colour.

 Lacking in Acumen

 Tearing Apart the Worldwide Anglican Communion

 It is not shrewd to tear apart the world-wide Anglican Church. The writing was on the wall. The Episcopal Church in the USA have promoted sexual activity outside traditional marriage and 100,000 members have left. GAFCON (Global Anglican Future Conference) with plenty of arch-bishops and over 300 bishops, has been set up in opposition to the US stance.

 The bishops knew it would happen, but they went ahead. Technically they could argue their responsibility was for Anglicanism in England where there was a thin majority in the House of Clergy and Laity[1] However it is surely not wise to push through a controversial decision when there is vigorous opposition. And that is just in England. The rest of the Anglican Church, especially in Africa and Asia are appalled, and while not under Canterbury in any administrative sense, Canterbury is the mother church. There are international obligations.  

 The statement came out and the explosions of the Anglican Church breaking up were immediately heard.

 The Bishop of Nigeria, leader of about ten million Christians, denounced it; GAFCON, denounced it; the Church Society denounced it; polite All Souls Langham Place, speaking for many of the orthodox in the UK, have denounced it:

 As drafted, the prayers of Love and Faith now teach every sexually active unmarried couple that repentance is not needed. If believed, this denies people the joy of stepping away from those things God has called sinful and into new life with him. We cannot participate in such a departure from biblical Christianity."

 All Souls has also withdrawn their financial support for their diocese. Many other churches will follow suit.

 A voice is raised, ‘But if nothing was done to placate those wanting to bless sexual activity outside traditional marriage, then this group might have left’

 That objection is less than convincing for two reasons. First of all it is unlikely this group would have left. They have been arguing for more sexual freedom in the church for years, and no serious concessions were made. They did not leave.

 Secondly, if there has to be a split it should be fair. This means that the ones who want to change the rules of the church are the one who should leave; the ones who do not have the obvious support of the Scriptures, they should leave; the ones who are in a minority[2] should leave; and the ones whose cause has done untold damage to Anglicanism in other countries, like the USA[3], they should leave. The statement does not just cause a split, it causes an unfair split.

 Executing Ecumenism

 Christians need each other, and across the world there are millions of other Christians whose help can be sought, especially during times of persecution[4]. The three largest denominations, the Roman Catholics (over a billion), the Pentecostal groupings (280 million) and the Eastern Orthodox (270 million), all stand against sexual activity outside traditional marriage. This decision smashes up the ecumenical cause. Blessing sexual activity outside traditional marriage will be a red line for these denominations and other smaller ones, like the Baptists (40 million), It is very hard to see this as having acumen.

 A policy with a track record for decline

 Research shows that Western Churches that have altered their policies surrounding sexual activity and traditional marriage have declined. The Church of Sweden has lost two million members; the Church of Scotland 300,000 members; the Anglican Church of Canada a million members; the United Church of Christ (US) 600,000; the Episcopal Church in the US, 700,000; and the Lutheran Church in the US, two million[5]. The General Synod wants the Church of England in England to grow, so it seems peculiar to move towards a policy that has such a dismal record.

 Internal logic is lacking

 The statement lacks internal logic. In clauses E and F the statement welcomes the prayer of blessings for couples engaged in sexual activity outside traditional marriage, and then in clause G it says there is going to be no change to the doctrine of marriage. The Christian doctrine of marriage is that God made mankind male and female and that a man should leave his parents, and become one flesh with his wife. Sexual relations are for a husband and a wife within the covenant of marriage. There is where God’s blessing is. And yet, as the statement from All Souls makes plain, the thirty-six bishops want to draw up prayers that will bless sexual activity outside marriage. Logic asks for consistency, not contradictory statements.

 Woolly words

 The prayers of blessing are for those in ‘stable, committed relationships.’ There is no definition of ‘stable’, or of ‘committed’ (one week, one month, till death us do part?), and no definition even of ‘relationship’. The word implies sexual activity, but the word sexual is not there. As it stands any one with any sort of relationship can ask for a blessing. There is nothing here to stop people who are a part of a threesome and in a stable relationship with each other coming to the church to ask for a blessing. Concrete definitions are important. They are not here.

 A competitor for traditional marriage

 The church is now denying that sexual activity outside a traditional marriage is sinful. This is difficult to square with the Bible, but the point to question is the wisdom of supporting a quasi-type of marriage if you want to support proper marriage. Till now the church has brought blessing for untold millions because she has urged people to move on from ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’ and commit themselves to each other in marriage. When you have something precious, it is not wise to bring in a substitute that undermines it.

 Lacking in sensitivity

 To Christians who are same sex attracted

 The statement is trying to make room for non-celibate same sex couples in the church. However this is insensitive to the Anglican Christians who are same sex attracted but have determined to stay celibate to honour Christ. Some, like Rev. Vaughn Roberts, serve in the Church of England. Roberts and others have tied themselves to the mast to resist the Sirens, and now the bishops sail past and say there is nothing wrong with sex - in a ‘stable relationship’. Rev. Roberts has responded very graciously[6], but firmly, to the Bishop of Oxford, a keen advocate for sex outside traditional marriage. There is something unsettling seeing those who have sacrificed so much being undermined by their own leaders.

 To those who have repented of sexual sin

 Millions have become Christians in Anglican Churches and repented of all sexual sin, whatever its exact nature. For some that might have been very costly, perhaps they lost the one person they really loved because of this. But they denied themselves to follow Christ. And now the church tells them that this self-denial was not necessary. That is insensitive.

 To those who want to be free from sexual addictions

 Many people want to be free from unwanted sexual urges and addictions. Before there was clarity: Christ can bring freedom. Yes, there will be the disciplines of accountability and fasting, perhaps the casting out of unclean demons[7], but there will be victory. All of the holy aggression necessary for living on the narrow path is now punctured by this statement wanting to bless sexual activity outside traditional marriage.

 For the persecuted

 When it comes to Anglican Christians who live under the cloud of persecution, this document is unbearably insensitive. Anglican Christians in countries like Nigeria, Pakistan, Iran, India, and Yemen face murderous opposition.

 These Anglicans are persecuted because they refuse to deny Christ and all He stands for, which includes sexual purity. For them the Christ who frees them from sin is the Christ who is worth dying for. But now they look to Canterbury and learn that sexual activity outside marriage is not sin.

 And they look to the cathedral where Becket was murdered, hoping for Canterbury’s support to ease their suffering. But instead they find that for the last six years Canterbury has given a lot of time to a small minority who, apart from disliking the church’s boundaries, are safe and healthy. Can one imagine the look on the face of a man like Richard Wumbrandt, who was imprisoned and tortured in a communist jail for fourteen years, entering the last Synod to find out what the bishops were talking about?

 For missionaries

 All over African and Asia Anglican missionaries by word and deed have brought blessing. The Synod have ripped up the message that caused this impact. Imagine you are an Anglican seeking to share the Christian faith with a devout Muslim. He or she will listen, and then ask, ‘But I have heard that Christianity supports sex outside traditional marriage’. The missionary can either lie, or lose his audience. It seems the General Synod never considered the implications of what they were doing for the great mission of the church.

 To millions of ordinary people

 The document is very sensitive to the slither of people (compared to the world’s population) who are concerned about different sexual identities; it is completely insensitive to the billions in the world who live in traditional societies where marriage and the family is honoured and other types of sexuality is barely talked about[8]. And that includes huge swathes of England where traditional family values are important. Consider the world of football, inhabited by millions. It is stolidly traditional. Here there is respect for the normal family, and not much enthusiasm for those pushing alternatives. In 1945 Hugh Dalton told a friend that, ‘Labour will only win power with the votes of the football crowd’. The General Synod’s decision has not been sensitive to the football crowd.

 Lacking in Clarity

 Very polite

 Harriet Beecher Stowe, the author of ‘Uncle Tom’s Cabin’, once wrote, ‘Better, a thousand times better, open, manly, energetic war, than a cowardly, treacherous, peace’. As with slavery in her day, so with sex outside traditional marriage in ours, in the church (not the world) the issue needs open and energetic war.

 There is a declaration of war in this document against the traditionalists, but it does not seem very open. Consider the opening paragraph.

 That this Synod, recognising the commitment to learning and deep listening to God and to each other of the Living in Love and Faith process, and desiring with God’s help to journey together while acknowledging the different deeply held convictions within the Church:

Under the politeness there is a phrase that is not true: ‘journeying together’. Churches like All Souls, London, or St Ebbes, Oxford and their clergy do not want to journey with people like the Bishop of Oxford. For a traditionalist there is no journey to make. The statement shies away from that. The politeness seems disingenuous.

Meaningless apology

 The next paragraph is superficially clear, but in substance it is anything but.

 The bishops:

 (a) lament and repent of the failure of the Church to be welcoming to LGBTQI+ people and the harm that LGBTQI+ people have experienced and continue to experience in the life of the Church;

A proper apology is about specifics. Here it’s not very clear about what the apology is for. Is the Synod suggesting that all their 16,000 plus congregations in England have not welcomed gay people? How do they know this? Especially since most people do not walk into churches advertising their sexuality. And what is the harm that has been inflicted? Has there been a torrent of harsh words spoken against people who identify themselves by their sexuality? The paragraph has fine sounding words, but little substance.

Someone might say, no, but the teaching is not welcoming. Of course. This is Christianity. It was started by Jesus Christ whose first public word was – ‘Repent’. (a little softer than John’s ‘You brood of vipers’) When we hear the Gospel we should feel uncomfortable, especially when we hear Christ talk about sexual matters: ‘If any man looks at a woman lustfully he has committed adultery’ A good church, like her founder, will divide people. If everyone feels comfortable then here we have a social club, not a proper church.

 Lacking in fidelity

 A difficult acronym

 The use of the acronym LGBTQI+ is very problematic for those called to uphold the authority of Scripture.

 First of all the bishops are agreeing to define people by a sexual orientation. That is not in the Bible. We are created in the image of God.

 Secondly, they are surrendering to an unproven, secular narrative, that believes that people have a fluid sexual identity. In the Bible God created mankind male and female.

 And thirdly and worst of all, the bishops have signed off on the plus sign. This stands for all of the gender identities and sexual orientations not covered by the other five initials. There are many. One is Polyamory, which is ‘loving non-monogamy’, i.e. threesomes, foursomes. It is surely tragic that in print we have thirty-six bishops apologizing in theory to people who are in a polyamorous relationship. Surely faithfulness calls Christian leaders to teach the plain meaning of Scripture: ‘flee sexual immorality’.

 In the Bible God does not accept everyone

 The next paragraph contains a theological error which reflects a popular myth in Western society that God accepts everyone.

 The bishops - recommit to our shared witness to God’s love for and acceptance of every person by continuing to embed the Pastoral Principles in our life together locally and nationally

 God’s love for every person, that’s in the Bible; God’s acceptance of every person, that’s not in the Bible, nor is it in the teaching of the church. We are sinful creatures under the wrath of God. We are only accepted in Christ.

How this basic theological error got past all the bishops is a mystery. God’s acceptance of some and rejection of others runs from Genesis to Revelation. Inside and outside; the broad and narrow way; sheep and goats; wheat and tares; the found and the lost; the saved and the damned; the accepted and the rejected, that’s the paradigm of the Bible and the church. And yet in this paragraph from the bishops we read that God accepts everyone.

 Not focused on what the church is called to

 Surely the emphasis of the Bible and Christian tradition is to preach the Gospel, live holy lives, and serve the poor. That is where fidelity must lie. This is not the focus of the next paragraph.

 We commend the continued learning together enabled by the Living in Love and Faith process and resources in relation to identity, sexuality, relationships and marriage;

 The UK is in tatters, the public square filled with lies and lewdness, cronyism and corruption, exploitation and manipulation, and it is the weakest who are suffering. Preaching Christ crucified the church can rescue people from their personal pits of sin. It is not that English people are antagonistic to the Christian message, the problem is the church does not preach Christ in the streets.

 This is what makes the emphasis of this paragraph so out of focus. Instead of shutting down all this endless talk about sexuality and engaging in robust evangelism like a John Wesley, or a Charles Simeon, or a David Watson, or a Michael Green, or a J. John, all we get is this paragraph about ‘learning together’ about ‘identity, sexuality, relationships, and marriage.’ It’s impossible not to think of violins and a city on fire.

 The compromise

 The next three clauses take us to the meat of the matter, which is that the bishops want to have prayers of blessing for people engaged in sexual activity outside traditional marriage. Then in the final clause it is bewildering to read there is going to be no change to the doctrine of marriage. As already pointed out this is contradictory. It is a compromise too far, for it means the bishops are neither being faithful to the new creed whereby traditional marriage and other sexual relationships should be treated in exactly the same way; nor of course are they being faithful to Bible and the historic position of the church.

 Lacking in respect for Anglicans of a different colour

 The English bishops knew that their support for sexual activity outside traditional marriage is vehemently opposed by many bishops in Africa[9] and Asia. Indeed the leading lights of GAFCON are African archbishops[10] For years these African bishops have been saying there is no need to question the traditional teaching on marriage and sexuality, but their voices, especially this year, have been ignored. Knowing full well that the Africans would be outraged, the English went ahead with their provocative statement.

 And, ironically, the process was called ‘Living in Love and Faith’.

 It’s very hard to see what love these English bishops have shown their African colleagues, but it’s very easy to see how they have shown love to their white colleagues in the USA and Canada. That is why it feels like there is a severe lack of respect for Anglicans of a different colour.

 A less obvious undertone of this lack of respect comes as a part of the ‘liberal progressive’ package, the idea that with education and a more open mind we can always move things forward for the better. So here we have ‘progressive’ Anglicans, wanting to move sexual relationships beyond marriage, and the implication is that the African bishops are less educated, more closed minded, more primitive and that is why they want to hold things back. That translates as ‘The whites know better.’

 Put bluntly, there are racist overtones.

 Probably Too Late

 It is probably too late. The release button for the nuclear bomb has been pressed.

 But the bomb has not quite left this B29 Synod. There can be an about turn. Brave bishops can tear up this statement and stand up for the ancient boundaries[11] , boundaries which have brought blessing to millions around the world.

 And this can happen suddenly, as in 2 Chronicles 29.

 Hezekiah ordered that all defilement be removed from the temple; he restored worship, and, later, celebrated the Passover. The result was: ‘all the people rejoiced…for the thing had come about suddenly’.

 Instead of organising committees to discuss what most people already know, could not our bishops follow the example of Hezekiah? Organise services of confession for us Christians to remove all defilement from our hearts, (including sexual sins), followed by worship. And then bold evangelism whereby the arrogant are brought down, the humble raised high, and the churches filled up.

 This will bring joy to our church, not this exceedingly problematic statement.

 

Tom Hawksley

An ordinary Anglican

March 2023

 



[1] The House of Clergy in the Synod voted 111/85 in favour; the House of Laity 103/92

[2] There are around 20,000 licensed clergy in the UK; just over 1000 have indicated they would marry a same sex couple. They are a minority. Translate that across the Anglican Church world-wide and the minority would be even thinner.

[3] For an in depth article about the property disputes in the USA resulting from the split in the Episcopal Church, see here - https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2011/03/31/churches-in-court7/

[4] When Muslim convert Mehdi Dibaj from Iran was sentenced to death by an Islamic Court, the transcript was smuggled out of the country by an Assemblies of God minister, his cause was then successfully taken up by the Roman Catholic Church whose diplomats challenged Ayatollah Khamenei about the matter.

[5] https://evangelicalfocus.com/features/12757/inclusive-protestant-churches-are-sinking

[6] To read Rev Roberts clear rebuttal of Bishop Croft’s arguments see here - https://2713aced-d665-4866-bcd0-8f7d81f2f5fe.usrfiles.com/ugd/2713ac_4f9a3958db324778b807e9507fb7c1b3.pdf

[7] That was my personal experience. Exorcism is an important and valid ministry in the church.

[8] In ‘The Innocent Anthropologist, Notes From A Mud Hut’ Nigel Barley gives a fascinating account of his time with the Dowayo tribe in Northern Cameroon. In vain he tries to find some homosexuals. There are none. The subject unknown. So much for the doctrine of sexual fluidity.

[9] To gain a good understanding of the Nigerian view of this matter see - https://www.pewresearch.org/religion/2004/10/19/anglicanism-and-global-affairs-the-windsor-report-and-beyond/

[10] Henry Ndukuba (Nigeria), Cyril Ben Smith (West Africa), Jackson Sapit (Kenya), Laurent Mbanda (Rwanda), Stephen Kazimba (Uganda) Justin Arama (South Sudan) and Maimbo Mndowla (Tanzania).

[11] Those ancient boundaries are superbly set out in a document penned by Tim Keller and his colleagues. This is rigorous and Biblical. See here - https://pcaga.org/aicreport/

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